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  INTRODUCTION  There are two major  marital problems that are capable of bringing about marital instability.   They are sexual problems and issues surrounding fulfillment of the life assignment of either of the partners.     Are you surprised ? Yeah! I knew you weren't expecting those answers or one of them.    They are actually the major primary marital problems.Every other thing is secondary.    My experience in therapy has proven this over and over again.    In this article we will discuss one of the two.That is,sexual problems.There are several causes of sexual problems. Two of them are previous sexual abuse of one of the partners/spouses as a child mostly and sexual incompatibility.      Again,we will only discuss sexual incompatibility in this brief chat.     Sexual incompatibility can be defined as the existence of a sexual problem due to non-alignment of  sexual ideas ,beliefs and experien...

 Wow!Episode 13 Mindshift program(Dealing with Emotional Trauma)on petals 102.3Fm we  ended up talking about handling fear,anxiety and uncertainty not only in our individual lives and families but also as a country.The highlight : Our problem is not just the fact that we don't have a Nigerian Dream but also that many individuals and families don't have dreams,visions,mission statements of their own that they are currently working with. I am optimistic about the Nigerian project! Episode 13: Hi Doctor Michaels, I am afraid of success,failure and uncertainty.I get scared of stepping out to achieving my goals in life.What should I do ? Is this normal ? INTRODUCTION           Thankyou for your question .         Fear in a matter is a negative,reactive emotion to a  danger due to a knowledge defect on that particular matter       Fear is also a natural reflex response to a real physical danger such as a li...

 Episode 12,Mindshift, petals102.3Fm, every Thursday 10:45am (Nigeria Time) . Listen live www.petalsfm.com.ng  "Doctor Michaels,how do I deal with bitterness affecting my perception of people,relationships,productivity and fulfillment in life?I seem to repel good people." Answer:      Our emotions are immense energies within us that ultimately determine our outlook on life,how we relate with people ,productivity and performance at the workplace ,the events and people we attract and the eventual outcome of our lives.        This is because we are the creators of our realities through our thoughts,emotions,words,and actions as well as the eventual outcome of our lives.       Bitterness is a negative energy. It reduces our productivity,performance.It increases the rate of suspicion and makes us repel good people but attract negative people.It increases the occurrences and events we don't like .       Bitterne...

 No matter what life throws at you,the eventual outcome of your life is still dependent on your final approval just the same way whatever happens in a company is dependent on whatever is approved by the chief executive of that company.Yes!That is how important you are.No force can stop you. The eventual outcome of your life is not dependent on God but on YOU! How far you will ever go in life is dependent on you and not on God. God has given you all that you need to work with. All He does now is to provide the necessary guidance you need to discover those treasures in you. Stop asking God to do what He has already done. You have been doing that for so long...yet little or no results. How long will you continue to waste time and energy ? Get up today and take charge of your life.  If you don't take charge,who will? Doctor Michaels,  Self Actualization and Personal Therapy Program 

  Nothing you do to/for him will ever change his perspective of you. He maltreates  you as a coping mechanism to deal with his hidden childhood wounds. You need to rise above his perception of you. You are a queen. You have royalty in your blood. You deserve more. You are a blessing to any man and society. Your place is not the second position except in marriage,where you voluntarily take the second position after your husband for the sake of order.Though you still remain a leader in your home and at the same time submissive to your husband. The success of a home is dependent on you. You are crucial to the success of a marriage. Step forward...remove the garment that the society has put on you to silence and cage you. You are as special as any other man. You are equal to anyman. Fulfill your dream ...maximize your potential...get healing for your wounds...be filled with hope...get every possible help. You are pivotal to the survival of the human race. Develop ...

  She brings in light, beauty and flavor into the world. She makes the impossible possible! Her absence squeezes out life out of the world. Silencing her spells doom on the earth. She is the key to the future...the key to the sustainable development and growth of the earth and the world. She is a rare breed. Special and dynamic in everyway! Inspiration,creativity and innovation floods her path. Faithful ,wise,mature and smart men adore ,honour and respect her. Foolish and immature men try to pull her down. Yes!There is something called the blessing of a woman. She is so important that God and the universe suspend the prayer of a husband who maltreates her. To step on her is to step and destroy your destiny She is strong.Her prayers are deep ,goes down to the root and bring forth lasting impact. It's a blessing to have her in your life. If you have a woman in your life who believes in you ...loves you...then yo...

 Please say after me, I relate with people with respect,love and humility as well as empathy. I am also assertive at the same time. I know when to talk and when to keep quiet. I know how to respond to people,things and events. I respond to things,people and events in life. The world is my domain and I reign in life. I think thoughts,express emotions,speak words,take actions,take steps,make choices that help me attract the right kind of people into my life today. Today is mine. The world is mine. I am excited about today. Doctor Michaels,  Self Actualization and Personal Therapy Program.

 " I am a married woman but have difficulty enjoying intimate time with my husband.This intimacy generally reminds me of the sexual abuse I experienced as a child.I find it difficult talking with my husband about these two things.My workplace performance and productivity is already suffering because of this.What should I do Doctor Michaels " why should she talk to her husband about it 1. It will bring clarity to her husband's concerns about what is happening in the marriage. 2. It will be a step in the right direction in helping him understand why she behaves the way she does 3. It will help him to know how he can be of help especially in supporting her adequately 4. It will help them to know what and how to get help together 5. It helps the husband also feel he can be open to her and also feel safe being vulnerable with her 6. It helps to build trust between the two 7. It helps their love become stronger 8. It's no longer one person's fight but two ...

  14  And the  Lord  said to Abram, after Lot had separated from him: “Lift your eyes now and look from the place where you are—northward, southward, eastward, and westward;  15  for all the land which you see I give to you and your descendants  forever.  16  And I will make your descendants as the dust of the earth; so that if a man could number the dust of the earth,  then your descendants also could be numbered.  17  Arise, walk in the land through its length and its width, for I give it to you.” Genesis 13:14-16. Relating events in the Bible with psychology and science.Please let me know what other religious books have to say too.Im a Christian,that's why I'm using a Bible.The relationship is explained in the next post     The law of visualization "To experience something in reality,we must first see it in our minds".    Neurologists Know Visualization Creates A Better Future    Scientists work...

     INTRODUCTION     Attention seeking behavior is due to low self-esteem,self worth,need for validation emanating from past emotional trauma or past traumatic childhood experiences such as poor parenting,lack of parental care (due to divorce or separation of parents or bad marriage of parents). It's not normal because it's an abnormal coping mechanism of dealing with past trauma.Solution is Talking  therapy.The end goal is to make us to be in control of our emotions and not be enslaved by them Doctor Michaels, Self Actualization and Personal Therapy Program

     Hi!       Have you been wondering what we are expected to be doing when we are expected to be  in a romantic relationship for 3-4years before going to the altar to say I do ?  Here are the 4-5stages in a relationship and 5-6  things to note and work on :    Relationship stages    Step1    Be sure you want to get married.    Step 2    Know what marriage is all about  Stage 3 Know the guy that asked you out and said yes to or the lady you asked out .  Stage 4 Be convinced about  relationship  with the person  Step5 Note and follow the next  5-6 steps above 1. A person in friendship might be different in a relationship and different in marriage ,knowing the other person in a relationship is key  2. Knowing the core and external personality  helps to anticipate the possible scenarios and reduce the problems that will surely arise when married. 3. F...

           The  mind is one of the most powerful part of every human being.It has the credible power to create our realities in life.      It activates a law called the Law of Attraction/Law of the Universe.This law states that "whatever we think and thank about we bring about."It also applies to whatever we complain about .It simply means whatever we focus our minds on increases.    Interestingly,the mind cannot differentiate between real life or real life story  and a fake or fabricated  life story.This forms the basic of our 5-way interventional therapy regimen at Quantum Leap Consulting used in the healing of our clients who have gone through emotional trauma.    Another thing to not is that the mind is the most gullible.So to release it's power,you need to think in a gullible way.There is a saying " If you want to catch a monkey,you have to think and behave like a monkey."You have got to know how the mi...

     The Transcending Life Challenges Live chat on Instagram with Dr Oba Otuyemi was awesome.      We talked about the 5 steps to healing (acceptance,deleting, replacement,forgiveness and letting go).       We also talked about the fact that overcoming life challenges is same as healing while transcending life challenges is a step ahead of healing or overcoming life challenges.          Transcending life challenges is associated with Self Mastery.Self mastery is achieved by mind reprograming,affirmations and taking tough decisions.Forgetting or closure is an aftermath of letting go(someone asked if forgetting happens to be the same as deleting ...answer is no). 1. Admission  or acceptance of the trauma 2. Delete the trauma in your mind  3. Replace the traumatic story with your own happy ending version of the story.  4. Forgiveness Yourself,God, and the offender 5. Letting go 6. Mind reprograming 7. Affi...

 I am   filled with unlimited power so I am confident.    I am  full of light hence i know the path to take in life.    My path shines brighter and brighter each day!     I am always a better version of myself!     I take steps each day to become better.     Each day is for my good.I  seize it...take it...and turn it around for our good.     Self Mastery is my lifestyle so also is mastery over my concerns about the unknown and uncertainties around.      Today is full of opportunities.Great doors are open to me  with ease.       I  maintain a positive outlook on life.         I think  positive thoughts today and always.      I express positive emotions always         I know what to do per time and in each season because I'm  full of wisdom.         I am  full of faith in God a...

       INTRODUCTION    Entrepreneurs are innovators,pioneers and visionaries.      They thrive in all seasons especially during hard times.     They bring up innovative ideas that help solve new societal challenges and problems.     They are the backbone of a growing economy.     They create contents,products and services from their pain.     They create success out of several failures . They are not new to failures or insults, embarrassment,pain, disappointment,no-money scenarios etc      They have this extra-ordinary ability to create something out of nothing. They bring out gold out of rubbles since they are products from rubbles themselves! Their businesses are expressions and extensions of their lives.     They are professional learners ...always ready and open to learn as well as ask questions.   5 THINGS needed to thrive as an entreprene...

7/24, 18:18] Client : Doctor Adewale what do you do if you remember something you did and you can't forgive yourself? I want to forgive myself.  😕 [7/24, 18:44] @doctormichaels:  STEP 1. Accept that 'mistakes' are not really mistakes but opportunities to learn.   STEP 2. Accept that you are a professional learner(always ready to learn) and draw lessons from the so-called mistakes   STEP 3. Forgive yourself   STEP 4. Take the necessary action that occurs to you while drawing lessons from the mistakes  STEP 5. Build capacity for life through *Transparent relationship with God the Creator * Keep a company of friends who challenge, encourage,motivate and inspire you. (Let them know how much you love them) * Read books to draw from the souls of men and women of old  STEP 6. Get ready for another "mistake" ...another opportunity to learn.  7/24, 19:01] @doctormichaels: Do you know how to forgive yourself ? ...

[5/9, 10:12] @ doctormichaels : *INTRODUCTION*      Almost,3 decades ago,my father left the house,leaving us with our mum.Of course that devastated me and almost destroyed my life.This is not our focus today. For many years I have always asked why my father left us making me vulnerable to all kinds of suffering,trust issues etc and I never got the answer. My mum told me he is/was a good man at the beginning of their marriage but something happened after some years into marriage.That question (why did he leave ?)hunted me for many years. Then suddenly,I got the answer to my question.I got to know why he left getting married to other women. Give me 10 emojis if you want to also know why ?  [5/9, 10:14] Participant: Wow, got married to another🤦🏽‍♂  [5/9, 10:14] Participant: 😳 [5/9, 10:14]  @ doctormichaels : Yes many women.  [5/9, 10:15] Participant: 💋 [5/9, 10:15]  @ doctormichaels : 8 more [5/9, 10:15]  Participant: 🥳...