IS THIS MARRIAGE THING REALLY FOR ME? 217 questions and answers on relationship and marriage

Marital Relationship Class Course Of Self Actualization and Personal Therapy Program (Quantum Leap Consulting)

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Question 1:
 What can I possibly do when my intended partner is an opposite side of me?
     My response: For a relationship to work out, the two people involved must have shared values in life. So even though opposite attracts ...it's the people of same values in life that survive the challenges peculiar to relationships and marriages.


Question2:
 How else can I improve my partner when it comes to planning the future together?
     My response: You can start by getting to know your partner...asking him or her about his or her childhood experiences , this helps to empower one in improving ones partner in planning for the future. It helps you to see the person's strengths and weaknesses etc. Childhood experiences form our personalities in life .They explain the ' why' of the weaknesses of your partner.


Question3:
What can I do when my partner place her friends above me?
    My response: This raises questions about the quality of friendship you have together.  It’s likely you didn't get to know each other well as friends before proceeding to a relationship or dating. Hence, the foundation of the relationship is weak.


Question4:
How do I put an end to my partner being visiting me when I don't want her to visit?
   My response: This depends on the kind of relationship you guys have .If it's a relationship that is meant to lead into marriage. The lady is free to visit your house anytime even without informing you.

 Question5:
 Is it bad to have more than 1 lover?
     My response: Having more than one lover exposes you to distractions and says a lot about your personality. It also shows one has trust issues. However, having back-up plan is risky and dangerous. This can lead
 to ill-health.

 Question6:
What can one do after detecting that the two parties in the marriage are not compatible?
   My Response: Compatibility is important in any relationship or marriage. However, if they are already married and they found out that they are not compatible, they will need to seek a professional help.

 Question7:
If your partner accuses you as the person behind his downfall spiritually what will you do?
My response: This is a serious issue and except both parties are mature, the relationship might end or the marriage could lead to separation .There are more underlying issues. You might need to re-assure your partner and involve a professional.

Question8:
If your mother in law is against your marriage
My response: You might need to study her and get to know how to win her trust and from there establish a relationship with her. You will need to forgive her and focus more on her strengths rather than her weaknesses.

 Question9:
 is it possible to have a relationship without being friends?
My response: Relationships that last are built on strong friendship.

 Question10:
 is sex really necessary in a relationship?
My response: There are various schools of thought. The shared values you have with your partner ensures a profitable and productive discussion between you and him/her on this matter. So sex is not really necessary in a relationship.







 Question11:
 is marriage really for me?
My response: Yes marriage is for everyone but several questions must be answered .Such as, do you love yourself?  Because if you don't really love yourself, you can't truly love another person let alone a partner in a romantic relationship



 Question12:
What are your expectations concerning this event?
Ans: is to know how marriage works and a lot of thing about what it takes to be involved and how to have a loving marriage




 Question13:
Why are there so many divorces in our own generations?
My response: The rate of divorce has increased because of increased level of ignorance about the purpose or reason or the ' why' of marriage. There has been a misplacement of priorities



 Question14:
People who love themselves will just decide not to love themselves again why that?
My response: Yes in marriage, the weaknesses of both parties are amplified. Marriage has a way of applying the weaknesses of both parties especially due to the stress involved, having to think of not only you but another person.



 Question15:
Does sex determine if one loves a guy?
My response: It is possible to have  sex with other people without loving them. So there can be a physical act of sex but no emotional involvement .Once this is so, there is guilt and anger even sometimes, suicidal thought.
The answer is no.



 Question16:
At what age is one ripe for marriage?
My response: From the time one is emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually ready for marriage.



 Question17:
 If a prophet says one shouldn't marry a guy should one listen or follow ones intuition
My response: It's usually advised that we seek God ourselves and learn how to relate with Him early so that we can leverage on that relationship when it's time to get married. So depending on someone else's relationship with God on important issues such as marriage is a wrong idea. You need to hear God yourself.




 Question18:
Does past  traumatic experiences such rape,affect one's relationship
My response : it does and what can be done is to seek professional help


 Question19:
What’s your take getting married to an older man within range of 45-55?
My response: This happens a lot to people with choleric temperaments. Its normal but there are so many things to consider such as challenges that may arise because of the huge difference in the ages of both parties. They may not agree on any issue that is, differences in opinion on several matters due to the huge gap in age. The younger partner may feel limited or restricted and this affects their relationship.





 Question20:
 I love them older, is that weird or a feelings
My response: No you are not weird






 Question21:
What should i do in a situation whereby my future hubby finds my career not too go for our Marriage?
My response: You might want to ask him why. It also depends on the kind of career....but once he is not okay with your career, that’s a red flag in that relationship...an indication that both of you might want to reconsider your marital choice again.





 Question22:
How to know if he is the one God made for me
My response: Check compatibility. First and foremost, if you are bringing God into this matter, you must be sure both of you have same values about God.Secondly,you must be ready for either a no or yes from Him.Thirdly,you must have had a real relationship with Him before now so that you can tell the difference between His voice and your mind





 Question23:
Why do most marriages fail?
My response: Lack knowledge about themselves and what marriage involves



 Question24:
I think there's no true love
My response: There is true love .My issue is that how many people love themselves. You can't give what you don't have. By the way, very few people love themselves. Loving yourself starts with knowing and accepting who you are first and foremost.



 Question25:
All men cheat yeah?
My response: Not all men. Women also cheat. It’s not a gender issue ...it's a human problem indicating lack of trust from the perpetrator and other underlying issues




 Question26:
What are your expectations concerning this events?
Ans: Adequate knowledge of marriage



 Question27:
 How do u know the right man?
My response: Physical attraction, no matter how small, Does the person have substance? Compatibility, Do you guys share same/similar values in life, Competence, Any leadership skills possessed by both parties really help. Capacity, How mature is the person emotionally, physically financially, in financial education, spiritually? Does the person have a relationship with God the creator or a higher being. There are times in marriage that you would need the help of God in guiding you





 Question28:
Qualities of a virtuous woman
My response: She must love herself, She loves people generally, She has a good self esteem, She has a strong spiritual life, She loves her spouse or partner, She loves her children, After God, her husband is next, followed by her children then her life purpose followed by her career and lastly her friends and family.




 Question29:
 how to handle a stubborn Fiancée?
My response: Be a mature person/partner it will naturally rub on your stubborn partner




Question30:
How do you know the will of God for You?
My response: He will speak to you. You need to ask Him. You must have developed a strong relationship with Him before now...this makes the whole process easier.



 Question31:
 What do I do when I see that my so called fiancé is not making the necessary moves?
My response: There are several reasons for this such as immaturity. You might need to start a conversation with him on this matter with the help of a professional. Usually, men make moves but if a man does not, there is something wrong somewhere that the man is not bold enough to talk about. Such men are in serious pain.



 Question32:
How do I know she/he is the one?
My response: shared values, does her life assignment complement your life assignment, physical attraction, peace of mind, in addition to also involving God or a higher being




Question33:
What to do while single?
My response: A lot of things. First, building capacity for life by
Reading books
Have a sincere and real relationship with God
Have a good company of friends
Secondly, learn a lot about your life purpose and get busy fulfilling it
Thirdly, develop a strong relationship with yourself...this will help you when you are in a romantic relationship




Question34:
Any tips for a successful relationship?
My response: Understand yourself and your partner, Be mature, Involve God, Love in an unconditional way, expecting nothing in return, Get to know the love languages of yourself and partner




Question35:
What can be the cause of delay in marriage for someone that is 35years old of age (female)
My response: Personality issues, Past traumatic experiences, Finances, Not knowing what one wants etc




 Question36:
What is the reason for a guy of 38years that professes love to a lady and just change?
My response: There are so many reasons. You will need to ask the person or observe. One of the reason may be that the so-called love may be a conditional one with strings attached



 Question37:
Why are so much societal pressure on a lady that is of age to marry but never meet her Soul mate?
My response: Culture. As people evolve, our culture also need to evolve. This is still work in progress.




 Question38:
How can someone that is single and yet to meet her soul mate tackle family and societal Pressure?
My response: You can't control them but you can only control yourself. You can determine whether you want to react (negative) to what they say or respond (positive) to what they have said. This requires a lot of maturity



 Question39:
At 35 no good job no financial stability can you shoot your shot for marriage
My response: Please get all you need set, at least the basic ones before you shoot your shot



 Question40:
 How long should people date to realise that they are ready for marriage?
My response: It's psychologically proven that it takes 3-4 years to be able to say you know someone. So before going to the altar, there must have been 3-4 years of active friendship, relationship, courtship.



 Question41:
At what extent should a woman compromise for a man in a relationship or marriage?
My response: They both need to compromise at one point of the other ...but one must never compromise one's life purpose and identity. That is being married must not take aware the fulfillment of your life purpose and your identity.



 Question42:
 How do you overcome fear of marriage?
My response: Start by developing true friendship with people generally




 Question43:
In what ways can I help my partner who doesn't know how to save?
My response: Buy a book or game on financial education



 Question44:
 If You Believe In Abstinence & Your Partner Doesn’t, Can Your Relationship Survive?
My response: No it can't, A thorough discussion must be made, You must have shared values in life.



 Question45:
Can AS get married to SC?
My response: It's likely a dangerous move. Marriage is not a do or die affair .Once it's a do or die affair, there is something wrong somewhere



 Question46:
Is relationship of 2months ripe for marriage?
My response: No



 Question47:
How Do I Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work?
My response: It's hard to make a long distance marriage relationship work .It takes a lot of work and very few people have the capability




 Question48:
At what age should a lady begin to have a mindset of getting married?
My response: When she is emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially ready




 Question49:
Advice on a spouse that correct his fiancée over every little thing
My response: You can't change people, you can only change yourself .So start with yourself and your partner will follow.




 Question50:
What can be done to a relationship whereby the fiancé check his fiancée phone mgs and fight over them?
My response: There is an involvement of trust issues, such relationship may not last long.




 Question51:
A fiancé who claim he is d head and want all things be done 4him, how can u deal with such?
My response: Being the leader means service.


 Questions52:
Why can't i find true love?
My response: It's very easy to find true love, start with the person in the mirror



Question53:
What are consequences of bad marital relationship?
My response: Possible separation and divorce if a professional help is not gotten fast



 Question54:
What is marriage in our modern context?
My response: Marriage has not and will never change; it's simply between two people, a man and a woman having shared values with mutual love and respect for each other heading in the same in the same direction in life.



Question55:
What are the measures for a successful marriage?
My response: Mutual love and respect for each other, Effective communication, Mutual understanding




Question56:
What are Qualities a guy and lady must possess before going to marital relationship?
My response: Maturity in all ways




Question57:
How to be sure someone is compatible with you break up is justifiable in a relationship
My response: Shared values in life



 Question58:
 What is your take on a fiancée who earn more than her fiancé and he still want to take advantage?

My response: Such a person has a lot of personal issues/problems to deal with.

Question59:
What are the DOs' and DONTs of marriage?
My response: Love your wife
Submit to your husband
Don't allow third party
Don't abuse your spouse



 Question60:
 Does ones parents have opinion on one’s marriage, or who or who not to get married to?
My response: Our parents see well especially from experience. It’s advisable to consider carefully the counsel they give. You must also mature enough to take a well informed decision that they will be proud of



Question61:
What are the criteria to look out for in a lady?
My response: Her maturity, Does she love herself? Does she love you unconditionally? Is she heading your way in life?



Question62:
What is a successful marriage and how do one achieve that?
My response: A successful marriage is a marriage of mutual understanding and respect as well as love as evidenced by the support they give to each other in fulfilling their life assignment



Question63:
Please discuss on how to manage finances when one has a family
My response
Determine if you are a spender or a saver
Determine if your spouse is a saver or spender
both of you need to get a good financial education so as to know how to manage your finances
Write out priorities and let the saver be the accountant of the family. He or she will serve as the voice of reasoning





 Question64:
How true is it that men don't like already successful ladies?
My response: Men do ...I mean real men




 Question65:
Would it be okay that I pursue my dreams without considering marriage for now hope it won't be too?
My response: Marriage with the right and supportive partner boosts our chances of getting our dreams achieved. Marriage is a blessing and not a curse





 Question66:
How to manage career & relationships especially for a guy who is trying hard to get it right quickly?
My response: Both parties need to understand themselves. Once this is done, the stress that comes with workplace and family balance is reduced. Understanding of ourselves and our partner helps us know what to delegate and what we can do ourselves



 Question67:
Why do we fight so much?
My response: Lack of understanding of each other.





 Question68:
 Does ethnical differences really matter in a relationship? Or is there a reason to our constant fight?
My response: Ethnical differences, when poorly managed can cause fights in marriages





 Question69:
Is it really important how my finances sister relate with me? If she doesn't like me, can I be worried
My response: It usually takes time for our in-laws to understand us and also to understand them. A lot of maturity is needed.





 Question70:
How can the facilitators deal exhaustively with the issue of verbal abuse by the women in marriage?
My response: Women are more emotional than men ...hence they are likely to use verbal abuse. The partner will need to more patient and show understanding...this really helps to calm the woman and help her express herself with verbal abuse




 Question71:
Can the facilitators help let the women know that disrespect to their husbands cuts him spiritually?
My response: Both of them need to respect each other so as to maintain a free passage way to God



 Question72:
Can the facilitators help deal exhaustively with the issue of expectations in marriage on both sides
My response: Everyone evolves. Too much, unrealistic expectations can ruin the marriage.





 Question73:
Issue of finance for couples that started from the scratch. Please deal with this also
My response: Finances have huge impact on a marriage ....financial management requires maturity and good financial education as well as good financial judgment.



 Question74:
Relationships are hard to maintain especially if you are a go getter how can you make it work
My response: It's better for that kind of person to spell it out to his or her partner before getting married. This aids good understanding and communication



 Question75:
How do we get to meet up with a good lady in this time the world is going?
My response: It's very easy to get a good lady. You can start by being a good person too



 Question76:
Is sex the main sign of love when relationship goes on cause of this century we are
My response: No



 Question77:
How do you make your intimate female friend understand that you love her when she knows you've a gf
My response:
It's difficult and almost impossible, if not, impossible to truly love two people at the same time in a romantic way.




 Question78:
Does true love still exist?
My response: Yes





 Question79:
How do you Know who u are to marry?
My response: It's very easy. Be the right person first...and develop yourself....this will help you know where you are going in life .Once you know where you are going in life,the choice of who to marry becomes easy




 Question80:
 Is it everyone that God speaks to before marriage, after u pray and fast and u dont hear, is he yours?
My response: God speaks to people about everything including who to get married to....a sincere relationship ahead of time really helps




 Question81:
People that doesn't hear God, is their marriage not blessed.
My response: Having God in our relationship and marriage is an added advantage. When the trials of marriage happens, He becomes the rock to turn to





 Question82:
 Is it good to give your name with the name of whom you want to marry out to pastors to pray on
My response: Its better you know how to listen to God yourself




 Question83:
Ur pastors pray, u pray and u heard nothing, What should u do in that kind of situation?
My response: God still speaks to people. Establish a relationship with Him first




Question84:
Why does the society frown at women who choose to not get married?
My response: It's because of our unchanging culture in Africa




 Question85:
Is it compulsory for one to be married?
My response: It's a blessing and an added advantage to be married. It provides support for us at several points in our journey in life





 Question86:
How do I know I'm ready for marriage?
My response: Maturity
 Question:
How do you deal with a proud partner?




 Question87:
If your partner does not respect you, can you just walk away
My response: See things from the angle of your partner and help him or her out




 Question88:
Is it ok if u leave a relationship where your partner is caring today and d next day he doesn’t care
My response: No .Your partner is going through a lot so start or initiate a discussion in that direction




 Question89:
what are the steps that someone could take if ur partner isn’t ready for marriage??
My response: Be patient and wait as long as you guys love each other




Question90:
 is ur advisable to marry som1 who just finished service and yet to find work coz or have his own place
My response: It's better to be financially ready amongst other things before getting married




Question91:
How can you satisfy your spouse family that won’t cause problem??
My response: Take time out to understand them



Question92:
Is it proper for mother-in-law to start staying with a new wedded couples??
My response: No problem. Yes it is



 Question93:
What makes relationships and married last and perfect??
My response: Mutual love and respect, Shared values in life.


 Question94:
What do you do when it seems you are always not telling on issues with ur partner?
My response: It could be a red flag alerting you of you guys not being compatible



Question95:
How do one handle attention that your partner gets from the opposite sex, i.e other suitors?
My response: Improve your relationship with her, Be sure she loves you



Question96:
How do one handle your partner keeping a close friend who once had interest in them?
My response: Be sure your partner loves you. Normally, you guys should be close to each other .His or her closeness to someone else can be an indication of a problem in your relationship. So look for that problem and solve it together.



Question97:
Where can I find love?
My response: First love yourself sincerely and love will find you



Question98:
How to settle when things go wrong?
My response: Effective communication, Talk about it together



Question99:
Things to do when you have met the right person
My response: Friendship first



Question100:
How to build trust in relationship?
My response: Effective communication



Question101:
How to make one relationship work?
My response: Effective communication and understanding, Maturity



 Question102:
 Love or trust, which is important in a relationship?
My response: Both




Question103:
 How to deal with opposite sex after been married?
My response: Be sincere with yourself on your ability to relate with the opposite sex in the right way. If you are in doubt seek professional help




Question104:
How to settle quarrel amiably without third party?
My response: Effectively communicate and articulate your pains to each other. You might also need a professional



 Question105:
Quality of a happy home
My response: Mutual respect and love for each other, Effective communication


Question106:
What are the rules of a good wife?
My response: She love herself and you



Question107:
Is it good for couple to use a joint account?
My response: Yes




Question108:
Why is it that guys don't want to get marry to single mother's
My response: The responsibility involved



Question109
What should we do?My ex wants to come back after an episode of domestic violence
My response: Once you are comfortable with him coming back.Make sure there proper evaluation to be sure you want him back .Make sure he also seek professional help before coming back



Question110:
Why do people rush into marriage?
My response: Societal pressure, Lack of understanding





Question111:
What requirements should one have before getting married ?
My response: Maturity, Good understanding of what marriage is all about



Question112:
 Can one be 40% ready for marriage
My response: You need to be 100% ready for marriage possible



Question113:
Major reasons for a collapsed marriage?
My response: Immaturity, Third party etc


Question114:
 Is it best to marry your friend? Or just a random person you meet somewhere but you love the person
My response: Your friend that you love romantically


Question115:
What exactly is love?
My response :Love is both a feeling and a decision



Question116:
Is it proper for both partner's that are courting to expose everything to each, (not hiding anything)
My response: They need to be sincere with each other


Question117: While couple's are communicating with each other is it good to use foul words?
My response: They must not use abusive words


Question118:
 Having sex before marriage is it a crime? But is with the person i want to get married to in future?
My response: Sex in a relationship most times clouds the judgment of both parties.


Question119:
 What is authority in marriage?
My response: Both of them are leaders of the home while the man provides leadership for his wife



Question120:
Giving as a couple?
My response: It's good


Question121:
Parental control in marriage?
My response: Maturity of both parties helps to manage the parental control


Question122:
Financial responsibility in marriage?
My response: Both of them should carry it



Question123:
 Reason for marriage?
My response: Companionship with the ultimate aim of both of them supporting each other to fulfilling their life assignments



Question124:
 How can a girl know a true man that love someone
My response: Shared values in life


Question125:
How can a girl make a man happy?
My response: You can't make another happy



Question126:
How can you I make a man love me more and more without deceiving?
My response: You can't .It's either he loves you or not



Question127:
And is it good for a girl to be a second girlfrnd to a guy?
My response: No


Question128:
And is compulsory to get married to a man that is extremely rich
My response: Does he love you?That matters a lot



Question129:
Can a woman completely trust her husband?
My response: Yes



Question130:
Is it right for a woman to get a man she is in courtship with money?
My response: I don't understand.



Question131:
Should a woman leave her Abusive marriage?
My response: A professional help is needed



Question132:
Being in courtship with a poor man is it fruitless?
My response: No



Question133:
How can a woman get rid of anger issues?
My response: Yes



Question134:
How do you make your partner trust and believe you?
My response: You can't



Question135:
Is there any particular to getting married?
My response: It's a blessing



Question136:
What is the required financial status before journeying into marriage?
My response: It varies from one person to another


Question137:
 What’s the aim of marriage
My response: Fulfilling God purpose in marriage



Question138:
Av loved once but it failed and how I don't know if I can fall in love again.
My response: It's good to fall in love again. You need to know why the other relationship failed so that you can prevent it


Question139:
 As a single mum, don't we deserve a good and loving man anymore?
My response: You do



Question140:
Why does it seems guyz can't stand to say to their family,"" THIS IS WHO I LOVE AND WANNA MARRY"""
My response: Family pressure,  Immature men


Question141:
 How better or successful can a guy make his family accept he's getting married to a single mum?
My response: It's a little difficult and requires work from him as well as your support




Question142:
As a single mum do I just settle with someone I don't even have feelings for but accept to marry
My response: No



Question143:
How can I manifest my dream man? I would love marry a medical doctor.
My response: Be the right person first




Question144:
What are the challenges one is likely to face in marriage?
My response: Your love will be tested ...so make sure it's a real love so that you can survive when the tests come




Question145:
If some weaknesses are found in a partner, how do you know the one to overlook?
My response: Work on all...yours first .Also employ the help of a professional



Question146:
Is sexual compatibility or having sex in general really big deal in both relationship and marriage?
My response: Sex in a relationship clouds good judgments




Question147:
 Is it possible to love someone you have never seen?
My response: I don't understand the question



Question148:
How do you really tell that a guy is truly in love and it's not infatuation?
My response: Is the love conditional? If conditional, it's not true love



Question149:
How can a couple get out a crisis with a cheating husband?
My response: A professional help is needed



Question150:
 How can a wife cope with a cheating husband during their journey to ensure it becomes a history?
My response: A professional help is needed


Question151:
How can a wife help her husband detach from his parents? He reports all events in their home to the parents
My response: Encourage self-personal development


Question152:
 How best can I handle a relationship that will lead to marriage
My response: Take time out to understand the other person and be sure there is love and that you guys are heading in the right direction



Question153:
How to submit to spouse easily
My response: It's a choice and a show /indication of maturity of the wife, Both are also supposed to submit to each other



Question154:
 How to handle issues arising during courtship
My response: Discuss them together



Question155:
How to handle a partner that has a different reasoning and perspective on alot of issues?
My response: That might be a red flag




Question156:
 Is there a particular age when a guy or a girl can start relationship?
My response: emotional, financial, physical and spiritual maturity





Question157:
 How can we know may be someone you are dating love you unconditionally
My response: By knowing what the person lay emphasis on ...Is it you or your
career/money/passport/hot body...can you truly say this person is your friend ?


Question158:
What advice can you give those who are about to start a relationship
My response: Love yourself first. You can't give what you don't have


Question159:
Explain more about self-discovery and destiny helper
My response: You should be able to answer
Who am I?  Why am I here on Earth? How do I explore my future possibilities?



Question160:
Things not to look over in a relationship
My response: Everything



Question161:
 Things not to look or things that are not important
My response: Everything is important



Question162:
 Define of a good relationship
My response: One with true, unconditional love



Question163:
What do we do as couple when there's financial struggling.. We’ve been praying but things are tight
My response: Keep trusting God, Hard work



Question164:
Can feelings develop?
My response: Love is more than feelings though feelings are part of love.Love is either there or not


Question165:
Can you build feelings for someone that really loves you but its seem you don't have feelings for him?
My response: If you don't have feelings, then the relationship is not sustainable



Question166:
Is it a crime to give a guy older than you a chance in your life?
My response: Yes



Questions167:
What is a relationship all about?
My response: Two people in love with each other with the purpose of helping each other fulfil their life assignments




Question168:
Do you have to "hear" from God on who you spouse will be to have a successful/happy marriage or home
My response: It pays



Question169:
Is it ideal to "taste" - have sexual knowledge of yur spouse b4 marriage to avoid disappointment?
My response: One can do without sex in a relationship



Question170:
 To some ladies, size matters. If there won't be sexual foreknowledge of one's spouse, can they "see"?
My response: That's a conditional love ...it's not true love




Question171:
 In this age and time, virginity isn't really a thing no more. How does a guy cope if it's his first?
My response: Views vary from one person to another based on culture and religion



Question172:
Finance issues in marriage
My response: Financial education is advised



Question173:
Family relatives in newly wedded lives
My response: It's good



Question174:
How to both fulfill destiny in marriage
My response: It's very possible





Question178:
Is it everyone that necessarily falls in love?
My response: Yes



Question179:
When does attachment to your partner become unhealthy?
My response: When it reduces your level of productivity


Question180:
 Coming from a not so pleasant past (in relationships) how do you explain your tendency to distrust him?
My response: Past traumatic experiences affects trusts in marriages. Hence professional help is needed




Question181:
How do one overcome commitment phobia?
My response: A professional is needed



Question182:
 Sounds crazy but... I've forgotten how to be a girlfriend. Can you help?
My response: Just be yourself



Question183:
When u are confused about your relationship with someone, does that mean the person should walk out?
My response: Both of you can sort it out and involve a professional



Question184:
 Is it normal to be scared of marriage because personally I am scared of it?
My response: It's normal to have concerns but not good to be fearful



Question185:
Is it compulsory to pray before you get into a relationship
My response: Yes




Question186:
Can you date someone you just met within one month
My response: It's risky




Question187:
How to meet the right person
My response: Be the right person first




Question188:
How to leave and forget an abusive relationship
My response: Involve a professional




Question189:
 How to love again after been in an abusive relationship
My response: Involve a professional






Question190:
How to forget your past relationship, forgive your previous partner and how to move on?
My response: Involve a professional



Question200:
How to reject a proposal without the other party getting angry or losing the friendship u both share?
My response: Inform the person in a loving way ...and be considerate



Question201:
Is it good for a couple to make joint account or Business who will be in charge of the money?
My response: It works if they both understand themselves




Question202:
 It is good to accept all advice from one husband when I was not ok with his
My response: There is sense in non-sense


Question203:
Can a Pentecostal marry a Catholic
My response: Yes





Question204:
What to do when your partner likes sexual conversation but you don't
My response: Discuss the differences together



Question205:
How to handle a distant relationship when your partner is not the calling type?
My response: Get to know his or her love languages and communicate accordingly



Question206:
What do you do when your boyfriend wants privacy; he claims his phone is his phone and all that?
My response: He needs to be open with you



Question207:
What do u do when obviously you're intelligent than your guy and he wants you to trust his judgments?
My response: Add your intelligence to his own




Question208:
How do you deal with egocentric guys?
My response: Communicate in their love languages




Question209:
 Is it wrong to ask for respect as a woman from a man in a relationship?
My response: No



Question210:
How do you get to know if your partner wants you as much as you want him?
My response: Their level of commitment to you




Question211:
 Sometimes I feel this marriage thing is not for me maybe because am not lucky with guys
My response: Love yourself first by getting to know and meet yourself



Question212:
Why is it that your dream guy don’t come your way Sometimes all just feels like fantasies
My response: It's easier when you love yourself



Question213:
 What do you say about one in her early twenties who have never dated anybody and isn't interested?
My response: Why is she not interested?



Question214:
This's a sincere question why can't guys remain friends with girls? They all ask the ladies out eventually
My response: Impatience



Question215:
 Is it a crime to give a guy older than you a chance in your life?
My response: No



Question216:
 Is it all relationship that leads to marriage? identify true love
My response: No

Question 217

What are the things to do, even though you were the one that broke up?

My response: Call the person and apologize

This questions were asked during out online event tagged "Is This Marriage Thing Really For Me?


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Assistant Editors
Opemiposi Ogunwale
Favor Akindele




Associate Editor
Mercy Nwamara



Executive Editor
 Doctor  Michaels
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Self Actualization and Personal Therapy Program