EMBRACING THE NEW NORMAL AS A PERSON WITH DISABILITIES (part 2)...a one -day online event for spinal cord injury survivors organised by REBUILDING HOPES ON WHEELS INITIATIVE (RHOWI). Held 13th May ,2020..8pm-10pm

[5/13, 20:03] @doctormichaels: Thank you everyone once again 

[5/13, 20:03] Participant: Good evening everyone [5/13, 20:04] Participant: Dr you are welcome

 [5/13, 20:04] @doctormichaels: Thank you 

[5/13, 20:04] Participant: Welcome 

[5/13, 20:05] @doctormichaels: My medical training was at Ogun State University,Sagamu My medical training was very traumatic  Especially for me.Remembering those days alone makes me tremble

[5/13, 20:06] Participant: Wow

  [5/13, 20:06] @doctormichaels: But today I'm glad I'm a medical doctor with a difference Please underline the word difference

 [5/13, 20:07] Participant: Why so pls

 [5/13, 20:07] Participant: Welcome sir

 [5/13, 20:07] @doctormichaels: What separates me from an average medical professional is that difference

 [5/13, 20:07] Participant: Welcome sir ☺

 [5/13, 20:08] Participant: Welcome sir😊😊 [5/13, 20:08] Participant: Welcome sir 

[5/13, 20:08] Participant: ? 

 [5/13, 20:08] @doctormichaels: 

     It was traumatic because it took me a long while to get to know and answer the question why medicine despite the fact that no one forced me into medicine.

    I had to go through a lot of psychological trauma to really discovering why medicine .    

    I knew it was beyond the average reason for studying medicine 

[5/13, 20:09] Participant: Welcome sir

 [5/13, 20:09] Participant: 👆 

[5/13, 20:09] @doctormichaels: 

    But I couldn't figure it out

 [5/13, 20:09] Participant: How did u overcome pls ?

 [5/13, 20:09] Participant: Following

 [5/13, 20:10] Participant: 🤘

 [5/13, 20:10] @doctormichaels: 

     It took me lots of failures in class and some professional exams to finally know why 

[5/13, 20:10] @doctormichaels: 

    Meaning I failed several times.

 I failed to the point where failure was my room mate

 [5/13, 20:10] Participant: ✋ 

[5/13, 20:10] @doctormichaels:

 It was so obvious my case was a special one 

[5/13, 20:11] Participant: Wow

 [5/13, 20:11] @doctormichaels: 

Because when othe,I failed really bad Oh so bad

 [5/13, 20:11] Participant: 🖐️

 [5/13, 20:11] Participantl: Hmmmm

 [5/13, 20:11] @doctormichaels: I failed to the point where you could call me Mr Failure

 [5/13, 20:11] Participant: Oh oh 

[5/13, 20:12] Participant: Hmmmm 

[5/13, 20:12] @doctormichaels: I failed so much ....I packed my bags and was ready to go back home 

[5/13, 20:12] Participant: ✋

 [5/13, 20:12] @doctormichaels: As a drop out from medical school

 I cried so much. Read so much.The more I read The more I forgot.All kinds of strange things were happening. Couldnt explain why I got confused in the exam hall. I have a feeling 

[5/13, 20:13] Participant : Strange indeed 

[5/13, 20:13] @doctormichaels: There is someone on this platform like me 

[5/13, 20:14] Participant: So it's true doctors do go thru alot of pressure in med school. 

[5/13, 20:14] Participant: 👍🙏

 [5/13, 20:14] @doctormichaels: I was so down that I thought of suicide at Isale Oko garage at Sagamu.But someone called me.And because of that call. I couldnt carry it out 

[5/13, 20:15] Participant: Wow

 [5/13, 20:15] @doctormichaels: 

   The failure tried destroying.Then I stayed back in mediacl school to finish.The rest like they say is history     Everything that happened to me had a reason.

  Nothing happened without a"why".Knowing and being able to answer the "why" automatically changes the perspective we have about our lives and challenges.

    So I will be speaking for few minutes . I like feedbacks     

    Please imagine tht you and I are in one of our offices for therapy sessions at Quantum Leap Consulting .Just you and I .

    Please feel free to express yourself .

    Stop me at any point to ask me questions Or pass any comment

 [5/13, 20:22] Participant: Ok sir 

[5/13, 20:22] @doctormichaels: The truth is nothing that has happened ....is happening and will happen in our lives can be described as an accident or a coincidence

 [5/13, 20:23] Participant: Ok

 [5/13, 20:23] @doctormichaels: 

    There are no coincidences in life.

      Accidents , coincidences only occur on paper but not in real life 

[5/13, 20:23] @doctormichaels: 

   Take a break now and think again

 [5/13, 20:23] Participant: ✍️

 [5/13, 20:24] @doctormichaels:

    Nothing in life happens by accidents

 [5/13, 20:24] Participant: Pls explain

 [5/13, 20:24] Participant: Ok

 [5/13, 20:24] Participant: How do you mean sir

 [5/13, 20:24] @doctormichaels:

    There is a reason for everything that has happened so far. There is a "why."

    If only we know the "why".

    We will stop asking the question "why me" ?    And start asking the question why not me ? 

[5/13, 20:25] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ 

[5/13, 20:25] @doctormichaels: 

      We are the only ones qualified to face our personal problems

 [5/13, 20:25] Participant: Are you speaking to us from medical point of view or you are combining spiritual aspects sir?

 [5/13, 20:26] @doctormichaels: 

     Our personal problems are global problems disguising as personal problems.

    I'm talking about real life. Okay.

    Let me share a fabricated story.

Are you ready ?

 [5/13, 20:26] Participant: Ok sir

 [5/13, 20:27] Participant: Ready

 [5/13, 20:27] Participant: Yes

 [5/13, 20:27] Participant: Yes sir

 [5/13, 20:27] @doctormichaels:

     In my Therapy sessions I mention God alongside my therapy regimen etc..World Health Organization has added spiritual health to the total components of health.

     So one day, God was in front of. Then He saw Mother Therasa helping a lot of women to get them empowered.

    Then God saw that the world still needed more women to help other women 

    So you know what God did?

 [5/13, 20:29] Participant: Nope 

[5/13, 20:29] @doctormichaels: 

    He called out a girl in heaven Aisha

 [5/13, 20:29] Participant: Ok🤔

 [5/13, 20:30] @doctormichaels:

     And looked a perfect couple to give birth to Aisha

   Your definition of perfection is different from God's definition of perfection.

   This so called perfect couple or parents had many personal ,family and marital issues.

   In fact ,the husband is a known rapist 

[5/13, 20:31] Participant: Let us hold on on banter for now

 [5/13, 20:31] @doctormichaels:

    So God looked at them and said oh yes. This is a perfect couple   

    GOD must be a comedian.

    He gave Aisha the same problem that she is meant to come into the world to solve 

    Aisha was born and was molested by her father 

   Then her  uncles

 [5/13, 20:32] Participant: 🙄 

[5/13, 20:33] @doctormichaels: 

     Then her brothers 

     The definition of a life problem by God 

[5/13, 20:33] Participant: Noted Sir 

[5/13, 20:33] @doctormichaels:

   Is different from our own definition of a life problem 

[5/13, 20:33] Participant: Hmmmmmm 

[5/13, 20:33] @doctormichaels: 

   The thinking of God is this

   If he or she is allowed to have this problem then he or she will be forced to solve his or her personal problems 

    Once the personal problem is solved then he or she would have succeeded in solving a global problem. A very good example is Oprah,

a media personality.

   Another good example is Taylor swift 

[5/13, 20:35] @doctormichaels: 

    Oprah was raped by several people 

[5/13, 20:36] Participant: ✍️

 [5/13, 20:36] @doctormichaels: When she started her tv show

 [5/13, 20:36] Participant: Don't even know where to start from, it seems I came late.😁😁

 [5/13, 20:36] @doctormichaels: 

     She interviewed several people who were raped.

    While interviewing them 

 She would cry.On a live TV show.

 Guess what happened

[5/13, 20:37] Participant: What? 

[5/13, 20:37] @doctormichaels: 

    Her tv show rose to number 1 in America    Today she is one of the richest black women in the world.

    She cried because she has been there.

    And she knew the pain.

    The second is Taylor Swift.

    She is a country singer in the US

 She had several relationship break ups

 [5/13, 20:38] Participant: Ok 

[5/13, 20:38] @doctormichael:

    Guess what she did?

 [5/13, 20:38] Participant: What sir?

 [5/13, 20:38] @doctormichaels: 

She used the break ups to compose songs These songs ended up announcing her on a global stage. I'm  from a dysfunctional home 

[5/13, 20:39] @doctormichaels:

    My father left us when i was 8years old. I witness my father beat my mother

 [5/13, 20:39] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ 

[5/13, 20:39] @doctormichaels: 

   At the age of 4,that affected me psychologically I had identity crisis. Was super shy.Withdrawn etc 

[5/13, 20:40] Participant: Hmmmmmmm 

[5/13, 20:41] @doctormichaels:

   All these happened plus my traumatic experiences in medical school

    It's interesting to note

 [5/13, 20:41] Participant: Chai!😔.

 [5/13, 20:41] @doctormichaels: 

That the path to life is death.

The path to wisdom is foolishness .

The path to light is darkness.

The path to happiness is sadness 

[5/13, 20:42] Participant: Wow

 [5/13, 20:42] @doctormichaels: There is no problem without a solution. Every problem has a solution : In fact 

[5/13, 20:42] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 20:42] @doctormichaels: Inherent within every problem is the solution

 [5/13, 20:42] @doctormichaels: 

   Therefore to run away from our life problems is to run away from the solutions to the problems.

   Problems do not miss the addresses they are posted to

 [5/13, 20:44] Participant: Funny though 

[5/13, 20:44] @doctormichaels: Our problems did not miss road

 [5/13, 20:44] Participant: Are you for real sir? [5/13, 20:44] Participant: Toh 

[5/13, 20:44] @doctormichaels: 

    There is a tracker on our lives that attracts our problems.

   Regardless of the cause or causes

   [5/13, 20:44] Participant: OK Dr ride on

 [5/13, 20:44] @doctormichaels: 

   We can't run away from them.

 We can't hide from them.

 Not everyone beaten by mosquito has malaria 

[5/13, 20:45] Participant: Wayo allah

 [5/13, 20:45] @doctormichaels:

     So having Malaria is not automatic to being beaten by mosquitoes.

    All  I'm trying to say is that ,there is a reason for where we are today

 And I have a good news 

[5/13, 20:46] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 20:46] Participant: Let it out sir

 [5/13, 20:46] Participant: Doc can you throw more light on this pls????

 [5/13, 20:46] @doctormichaels:

 This class that is about to end is going to be instrumental in pushing us from where we are to where we ought to be

 [5/13, 20:47] Participant: Please jot it down to *question and answer*

 [5/13, 20:47] @doctormichaels: 

Our life purpose is the only why we have experienced all the good,bad and ugly situations in our lives

 [5/13, 20:48] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ 

[5/13, 20:48] @doctormichaels: 

  It is the reason why we can't escape them if even if we try [5/13, 20:48] Participant: I love this

 [5/13, 20:48] @doctormichaels:

 The truth is that

We did not come into this world to get married Or have children  Or have companies 

[5/13, 20:48] Participant: How do we know our life purpose

  [5/13, 20:48] @doctormichaels: 

Primarily,all these are secondary 

The primary reason for being here is answered by our life purpose 

[5/13, 20:49] Participant: Hmmmmmmm ✍️✍️✍️✍️ 

[5/13, 20:49] Participant: Wow, interesting

 [5/13, 20:49] @doctormichaels: I asked my first girlfriend out at the age of 18 ,he asked for my favorite color

 [5/13, 20:50] Participant: 👌

 [5/13, 20:50] @doctormichaels: I didn't prepare for that question

 I couldn't answer😀🤣.I was shocked.And before I could recover from the shock 

[5/13, 20:50] Participant: 😂😂😂 

[5/13, 20:50] @doctormichaels: 

   The lady said no to me.

 [5/13, 20:50] Participant: 😆😆😆😆 

[5/13, 20:50] @doctormichaels: to me,that really disturbed me.It was not the No. It was the fact that I didn't know what my favorite colour was 

[5/13, 20:51] Participant: What then? 

[5/13, 20:51] @doctomichaels: 

So I asked myself

 Ayodele 

[5/13, 20:51] Participant: 🤣🤣

 [5/13, 20:51] @doctormichaels: 

   You have never asked yourself for your favorite color

 [5/13, 20:51] Participant: 🤩Funny 

[5/13, 20:52] @doctormichaels: So if you don't know your favorite colour ....what exactly do you know about yourself ?

Ladies and gentlemen 

[5/13, 20:52] Participant: But I don't know mine too till last year 

[5/13, 20:52] Participant: 🤣🤣🤣

 [5/13, 20:52] Participant: Hmmmm

 [5/13, 20:52] @doctormichaels: 

That was the beginning and the end of my childhood trauma,I  spent the next 14-15years asking myself 200+ questions about myself And I also answered them 

  [5/13, 20:53] Participant: Wow😍 

[5/13, 20:53] @doctormichaels: Of course there was no professional then to talk to.

I summarized the 200+ questions into 3 fundamental questions of life 

1. Who am I ? 

 2. What is my purpose in life...or why am I here on Earth

 3. Do I have a future ? 

3b. If I have a future....how do I explore my future possibilities

 [5/13, 20:54] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 20:55] @doctormichaels: 

Asking and answering these questions was not a joke at all

 [5/13, 20:55] Participant: Interesting

 [5/13, 20:55] @doctormichaels: 

  While my mates and colleagues were enjoying  I was busy asking and answering these questions

Answering these questions literally made me look at all my psychological trauma,failures in a different light.I mean

 [5/13, 20:56] Participant: Getting interesting...

 [5/13, 20:56] @doctormichaels: 

My answer to question 3a was yes

 [5/13, 20:57] Participant: And I dont have😏 

[5/13, 20:57] @doctormichaels: Guess what Since it was yes,"depression" flew out of the window

  Can't remember the last time I woke up not wanting to wake up

Can't remember the last time I cried about my past trauma.

 [5/13, 20:58] Participant: 😁😁😁 

[5/13, 20:58] @doctormichaels: 

Asking those questions has not stopped life from throwing bigger problems at me.

What it did was to help me know the why .

The reasons why the problems are coming to me

 [5/13, 20:59] Participant: Hmmmm🤔 

[5/13, 20:59] Participant: Amen🙏🏻

 [5/13, 20:59] @doctormichaels:

 On the lip of every problem is solve me and I will make you a star 

blems in your life

  What would you write

 Write it privately 

[5/13, 21:00] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 21:00] @doctormichaels: 

Look at that problem again 

The solution to that problem lies in two places Inside the problem and inside the problem holder

Ladies and gentlemen

 [5/13, 21:00] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 21:00] @doctormichaels: 

The first place to look for a solution is inside us

 [5/13, 21:01] Participant: Noted [5/13, 21:01] 

@doctormichaels: 

  God has placed the solution to every problem we are going to face in life inside us and inside the problem

 [5/13, 21:01] Participant: Hmmmm

 [5/13, 21:01] @doctormichaels: 

Instead of looking for so called destiny helpers You really need to think again

 [5/13, 21:02] Participant: I can imagine🤣 

[5/13, 21:02] @doctormichaels:

 Because they don't have the solution to your problem

 You are the only one that has it

 [5/13, 21:02] Participant: Yes o

 [5/13, 21:02] @doctormichaels: 

  Every other person is a passenger 

We are the only drivers to our lives 

[5/13, 21:02] @doctormichaels: 

I will round off with 2 stories

 [5/13, 21:03] Participant: But atimes they are important

 [5/13, 21:03] @doctormichaels: One is a real life story 

[5/13, 21:03] Participant: 🤚🏻

 [5/13, 21:03] @doctormichaels: 

The second is a fabricated story

  They are only important when we have discovered the true solution to our problems [5/13, 21:04] Participant: What we regard as problems or challenges are really the stepping Stones we need to progress! 

[5/13, 21:04] @doctormichaels: 

You can't help someone who doesn't truly know where he or she is going to 

 Yessssssssse 

 This is my point

 [5/13, 21:04] Participant: Sure

 [5/13, 21:04] @doctormichaels: 

Without problems we can't move forward in life [We will always have problems 

[5/13, 21:05] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 21:05] @doctormichaels:

 No matter how much we pray

 In fact,God will orchestrate some

  I was in my room 2004 

December 6am in kitchen

in medical school

  When suddenly as I was meditating

A thought flashed through my mind

 [5/13, 21:06] Participant: Okayyyyy

   [5/13, 21:06] @doctormichaels:

 Guess what the thought was

? Here is the thought 

[5/13, 21:06] Participant: Yep

 [5/13, 21:07] @doctormichaels:

 I am the architect of my destiny 

This simple thought literally changed my life. And it will change someone's life tonight God and other people are just helpers 

[5/13, 21:08] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️

 [5/13, 21:08] @doctormichaels:

 All the problems I have had,I'm having and will have are all set ups 

 The closer I get to where I'm going to [5/13, 21:08] Participant: Set up for greatness [5/13, 21:08] @doctormichaels: The bigger the problems will be [5/13, 21:08] @doctormichaels: The darker the night will be [5/13, 21:09] @doctormichaels: The more the opposition [5/13, 21:09] @doctormichaels: The truth is we are all in a boxing ring of lifr [5/13, 21:09] @doctormichaels: Life * [5/13, 21:09] Participant: True [5/13, 21:09] @doctormichaels: And life will never drop anything on our laps without a fight [5/13, 21:10] Participant: True talk. [5/13, 21:10] @doctormichaels: To think that being passive will help is to be the most ignorant person ever [5/13, 21:10] @doctormichaels: My second atory [5/13, 21:10] @doctormichaels: Story* [5/13, 21:10] @doctormichaels: A skinny boy was approaching a tree [5/13, 21:11] @doctormichaels: The funniest thing was that a very big lion was lurking around that tree [5/13, 21:12] @doctormichaels: Everyone around the skinny guy say the lion ....they knew the skinny guy cannot in anyway kill the lion ...but they were far away from him [5/13, 21:12] @doctormichaels: They shouted [5/13, 21:12] @doctormichaels: Screamed [5/13, 21:12] @doctormichaels: But he didn't hear them [5/13, 21:13] @doctormichaels: Immediately he got close to the tree [5/13, 21:13] @doctormichaels: The lion jumped out [5/13, 21:13] @doctormichaels: Guess what happened to to the lion [5/13, 21:13] @doctormichaels: The skinny guy ended up killing the lion with his hands [5/13, 21:14] @doctormichaels: To the amazement of all around [5/13, 21:14] Participant: Hmmnnn [5/13, 21:14] @doctormichaels: Those who fainted came back to life [5/13, 21:14] Participant: Ok [5/13, 21:14] Participant: 👏 [5/13, 21:14] @doctormichaels: The truth is that if we kill a lion today [5/13, 21:14] @doctormichaels: We will face a bear tomorrow [5/13, 21:14] @doctormichaels: If we kill the bear tomorrow [5/13, 21:15] @doctormichaels: We will face the giant next tomorrow [5/13, 21:15] @doctormichaels: No one ever knew that inside the skinny harmless looking guy was a lion killing-machine [5/13, 21:16] @doctormichaels: We would never know what we are capable of doing until we are faced with a challenge [5/13, 21:16] @doctormichaels: So instead of fighting God for what has happened to us [5/13, 21:16] Participant: Sure [5/13, 21:16] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:16] Participant: ✍✍ [5/13, 21:16] @doctormichaels: Instead of fighting people who seem to be at the root cause of where we are today [5/13, 21:16] @doctormichaels: Can you look again [5/13, 21:17] @doctormichaels: ? [5/13, 21:17] @doctormichaels: You will discover that they were just playing their roles [5/13, 21:17] @doctormichaels: You will need to organise a thanksgiving service to thank everyone who has caused us pain [5/13, 21:18] Participant: Hmmm [5/13, 21:18] @doctormichaels: Because like I said in book Daily Wisdom for living [5/13, 21:18] Participant: 😃😃😃 [5/13, 21:18] Participant: 💯 [5/13, 21:18] @doctormichaels: Without their pain...mockery...abandonment we would still have remained where we were [5/13, 21:19] @doctormichaels: Covid 19 like every other life challenge is not against us [5/13, 21:19] @doctormichaels: They are all on our side [5/13, 21:19] Participant: Yes oo [5/13, 21:19] @doctormichaels: They want to make us a star [5/13, 21:20] @doctormichaels: They are here to cause a shift in thinking [5/13, 21:20] @doctormichaels: A shift in perspective [5/13, 21:20] @doctormichaels: A shift in behavior [5/13, 21:20] @doctormichaels: They want to open our eyes to new possibilities [5/13, 21:20] @doctormichaels: New frontiers [5/13, 21:20] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: New doors that has always been there but we never noticed [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: Stop fighting them [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: Start listening to them [5/13, 21:21] Participant: Well done Dr, really opening eyes here [5/13, 21:21] Participant: Hmmm point [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: Lots of alignments and realignment are taking place [5/13, 21:21] Participant: Ok sir [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: In conclusion [5/13, 21:21] Participant: 😢 [5/13, 21:21] @doctormichaels: Make up your mind today [5/13, 21:22] @doctormichaels: To get up from where life and people and God seem to have pushed us [5/13, 21:22] @doctormichaels: Make up your mind to forgive God [5/13, 21:22] @doctormichaels: The people [5/13, 21:22] @doctormichaels: And forgive yourself [5/13, 21:22] @doctormichaels: Dust yourself up [5/13, 21:23] Participant: Hmmm [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: Clean up yourself [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: And tell yourself over and over again [5/13, 21:23] Participant: yes o [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: That this will be the last time life will ever push me to the corner [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: As from today [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: I choose to figjt [5/13, 21:23] @doctormichaels: Fight [5/13, 21:24] @doctormichaels: I choose not to leave my life to chance in the name of leaving it to God [5/13, 21:24] Participant: Hmmmmm [5/13, 21:25] @doctormichaels: I choose to drive while I listen to God's guidance since it's a 50/50 partnership [5/13, 21:25] @doctormichaels: And the final decision would have to be taken by me [5/13, 21:25] @doctormichaels: Ladies and gentlemen [5/13, 21:25] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:25] @doctormichaels: This is the wrongest time to fight God [5/13, 21:26] Participant: Yes pain is a gift [5/13, 21:26] @doctormichaels: Those that will make it post Covid are those who have a relationship with God [5/13, 21:26] Participant: Honestly [5/13, 21:26] Participant: Truth [5/13, 21:26] @doctormichaels: In my book Daily wisdom for living [5/13, 21:26] @doctormichaels: I wrote 2018 [5/13, 21:26] @doctormichaels: I said two things [5/13, 21:26] Participant: Yes o [5/13, 21:27] @doctormichaels: 1. There will be a global economic meltdown ....q scary one [5/13, 21:27] Participant: Wow [5/13, 21:27] Participant: 👌 [5/13, 21:27] @doctormichaels: 2. Only businesses whose original idea are from God will survive the economic meltdown [5/13, 21:27] @doctormichaels: Let me stop here [5/13, 21:28] @doctormichaels: I hope I communicated well [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Thank you so very much Dr [5/13, 21:28] @doctormichaels: I hope I was of help [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Very well sir [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Very well sir [5/13, 21:28] @doctormichaels: I hope it was not a waste of your time and data [5/13, 21:28] @doctormichaels: Please ask me questions [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Not at all [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Very well sir ☺ [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Not at all [5/13, 21:28] Participant: Guys, now your turn to ask question... [5/13, 21:29] @doctormichaels: Thanks to Mr Awobona for the recommendation [5/13, 21:29] Participant: 👌 [5/13, 21:29] @doctormichaels: Thank you everyone for this rare privilege to speak here [5/13, 21:29] @doctormichaels: A lot has happened tonight [5/13, 21:29] Participant: OK God bless you can I be under mentorship [5/13, 21:30] @doctormichaels: Yeah [5/13, 21:30] @doctormichaels: My number +2348141630817 [5/13, 21:30] @doctormichaels: Amen [5/13, 21:30] Participant: You are always welcome sir. [5/13, 21:30] Participant: *Questions! Questions!! Questions!!!* [5/13, 21:30] Participant: ✅✅✅ [5/13, 21:30] Participant: Dr! Why do people find it difficult to see talent in someone all cos of trauma? [5/13, 21:31] Participant: Very well Sir! God bless you [5/13, 21:31] @doctormichaels: Oh thank you ma for that beautiful question [5/13, 21:31] Participant: Dr, please can we get this lecture in one single file sir? [5/13, 21:31] @doctormichaels: Yes sir [5/13, 21:31] Participant: Well done Doctor 👍 [5/13, 21:31] Participant: @⁨@doctormichaels⁩ [5/13, 21:31] @doctormichaels: I will send it to you sir [5/13, 21:31] Participant: Thanks sir [5/13, 21:32] Participant: *Questions! Questions!! Questions!!!* [5/13, 21:32] @doctormichaels: People who are yet to deal with their own trauma look at life and people with trauma in a bad and painful light [5/13, 21:32] @doctormichaels: The truth is that a lot of people are in pain [5/13, 21:33] @doctormichaels: And there are only very few people like us who deal with psychological trauma [5/13, 21:33] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:33] Participant: 😢 [5/13, 21:33] Participant: Well said Doc,I really appreciate [5/13, 21:33] Participant: 🤔 [5/13, 21:33] @doctormichaels: So culture,society,past traumatic childhood and adulthood experiences makes people have that kind of perspective [5/13, 21:34] @doctormichaels: Unlike people that have dealt with their own issues [5/13, 21:34] @doctormichaels: You can't give what you don't have [5/13, 21:34] @doctormichaels: Did I answer your question ma? [5/13, 21:34] Participant: Fact [5/13, 21:34] Participant: Very well [5/13, 21:35] Participant: 👍🏻👍🏻 [5/13, 21:35] @doctormichaels: Thank you [5/13, 21:35] @doctormichaels: More questions [5/13, 21:35] @doctormichaels: Chai [5/13, 21:35] @doctormichaels: I love questions o [5/13, 21:35] Participant: Dr, is there any tip on how one can discover his or her purpose? [5/13, 21:35] @doctormichaels: 🤦🏻‍♂️😀 [5/13, 21:35] Participant: ✅✅✅ [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: Oh fantastic question [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: At Quantum Leap Consulting [5/13, 21:36] Participant: Sorry talking about what why we are alive.. Do we have or need anyone to prouf wrong or right? [5/13, 21:36] Participant: This sir [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: We came up with the 4Ps of purpose discovery [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: The first P is common [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: But we came up with 3 more Ps [5/13, 21:36] @doctormichaels: 1 .Passion [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: What are you passionate about [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: What is makes you happy [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: What gets your attention [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: For me...it is capacity building and therapy [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: 2. People [5/13, 21:37] @doctormichaels: Human beings have spiritual eyes [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: They see something when they look at us [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: So they call us by that thing [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: What do people say about you [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: You can put the question on your WhatsApp status [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: Let people talk frey [5/13, 21:38] @doctormichaels: Freely [5/13, 21:39] @doctormichaels: What are the negative and positive things people say about yiu [5/13, 21:39] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:39] @doctormichaels: Within those positive and negative things is where your purpose I [5/13, 21:39] @doctormichaels: is [5/13, 21:40] @doctormichaels: What kind of problems do people bring to you the most [5/13, 21:40] @doctormichaels: 3. Problems [5/13, 21:40] Participant: Hmmmmm [5/13, 21:40] Participant: Wow [5/13, 21:40] Participant: +done [5/13, 21:40] @doctormichaels: What is that recurrent , stubborn life problems that keep coming back over the years [5/13, 21:41] @doctormichaels: Imagine me asking two clients A and B to write out their problems [5/13, 21:41] @doctormichaels: A writes 5 problems [5/13, 21:41] @doctormichaels: B writes 36problems [5/13, 21:41] @doctormichaels: The person with a problem is actually A [5/13, 21:41] Participant: 🙄 [5/13, 21:41] @doctormichaels: The more you know yourself...the more problems you will discover [5/13, 21:42] @doctormichaels: 4. Past success rate [5/13, 21:42] @doctormichaels: What is that thing that you do so well and you get massive results while others struggle at it [5/13, 21:43] @doctormichaels: What is that societal problem that you have been trying to solve ? [5/13, 21:43] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:43] @doctormichaels: Those Ps will help [5/13, 21:43] @doctormichaels: You can private chat me to assist you [5/13, 21:43] @doctormichaels: I will give a discount [5/13, 21:43] Participant: God bless you with more knowledge [5/13, 21:43] @doctormichaels: Instead of 5,000naira [5/13, 21:43] Participant: Thank you Dr [5/13, 21:43] Participant: *Questions! Questions!! Questions!!!* [5/13, 21:44] @doctormichaels: I will charge 1,500 naira per session [5/13, 21:44] @doctormichaels: Online [5/13, 21:44] @doctormichaels: More questions [5/13, 21:44] Participant: ? [5/13, 21:45] @doctormichaels: Oh nice question [5/13, 21:45] Participant: How can please use what u have said for us to move on with life after a life changing trauma like disability ? [5/13, 21:45] @doctormichaels: Thank you ma and sir [5/13, 21:45] @doctormichaels: Nooooooooo [5/13, 21:45] @doctormichaels: We don't have to prove anything to anyone [5/13, 21:45] @doctormichaels: God the Creator is like a business man or woman [5/13, 21:46] @doctormichaels: He invested in us [5/13, 21:46] @doctormichaels: So He is going to expect returns of investment [5/13, 21:46] Participant: Are there any factors we need to consider regarding accepting who we have become inorder to move on with life ? [5/13, 21:46] @doctormichaels: And He won't want to hear us stammer [5/13, 21:46] @doctormichaels: So we have no one prove anything to [5/13, 21:46] Participant: Hmmmmm [5/13, 21:47] Participant: Now am free like a bird 🐦 God bless you Mr AWOBOLA, I will have miss this precious moment [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Great question [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Everyone has a disability [5/13, 21:47] Participant: *Questions! Questions!! Questions!!!* [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Mental [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Physical [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Spiritual [5/13, 21:47] @doctormichaels: Psychological [5/13, 21:48] Participant: Dr, have few more minutes to spend with us, please ask your question... [5/13, 21:48] @doctormichaels: So that calms everybody down [5/13, 21:48] @doctormichaels: 2. We must tell ourselves over and over again that we have something to put on the table [5/13, 21:48] Participant: @⁨@doctormichaels⁩ [5/13, 21:49] Participant: Yes we are all disable It not of the physical but of the mindset [5/13, 21:49] Participant: What do you think is the highest challenge of one with spinal injury [5/13, 21:49] @doctormichaels: 3. Stand in the mirror and forgive the person in the mirror,forgive God for allowing the trauma to take place and then forgive the offenders [5/13, 21:50] @doctormichaels: Without this ....we will be forever live in our past and never be able to enter our future [5/13, 21:51] @doctormichaels: 4. A professional help to help us undo the negative effect of our past trauma is needed [5/13, 21:51] @doctormichaels: We do that using our delete and replacement therapy [5/13, 21:52] @doctormichaels: The 3 fundamental questions of life i mentioned earlier are enough [5/13, 21:52] Participant: Hm [5/13, 21:52] @doctormichaels: The other thing is the 4 steps to building capacity for life [5/13, 21:52] @doctormichaels: 1. Have a thorough ,sincere , transparent relationship with God [5/13, 21:52] @doctormichaels: When men gather [5/13, 21:52] Participant: ✍️✍️✍️ [5/13, 21:52] @doctormichaels: They talk about women [5/13, 21:53] @doctormichaels: And when women gather [5/13, 21:53] @doctormichaels: They talk about men [5/13, 21:53] @doctormichaels: Can you imagine having a men's talk or women's talk with God ? [5/13, 21:53] @doctormichaels: Chai [5/13, 21:53] @doctormichaels: It's so sweet and therapeutic [5/13, 21:54] @doctormichaels: We ask our clients to do it [5/13, 21:54] @doctormichaels: I will be done in 2minutes [5/13, 21:54] @doctormichaels: 2. Read books [5/13, 21:54] Participant: Thank you very much Sir. I hear people say you are the cause of my problems or downfall. How possible is that Sir? [5/13, 21:55] @doctormichaels: Through books men and women of old pour out their minds and hearts into ours for two reasons 1. To make us repeat the exploits they have achieved and do more 2. To not repeat the mistakes they made [5/13, 21:56] Participant: Good evening house sorry i came late because there is power outage in my Area. [5/13, 21:56] @doctormichaels: The third step to building capacity is Company of friends [5/13, 21:56] @doctormichaels: If we walk with Giants we can't remain a dwarf [5/13, 21:56] @doctormichaels: The last step is be a professional learner [5/13, 21:56] @doctormichaels: Always asking questions [5/13, 21:56] @doctormichaels: Ready to learn from everything [5/13, 21:57] @doctormichaels: Everyone and anything anyone [5/13, 21:57] @doctormichaels: I'm done [5/13, 21:57] Participant: Thank you so much [5/13, 21:57] Participant: God bless you [5/13, 21:57] @doctormichaels: If we look again [5/13, 21:57] @doctormichaels: The perspective will change [5/13, 21:58] Participant: Thank you Dr [5/13, 21:58] @doctormichaels: The person needs to admit and accept what happened [5/13, 21:58] @doctormichaels: Take their own part of the responsibility for what has happened [5/13, 21:58] Participant: 👌 [5/13, 21:58] @doctormichaels: Learn from the so called mistakes and vow never to repeat it again [5/13, 21:59] Participant: Beautiful! [5/13, 21:59] @doctormichaels: Vow again that if it happens again ...and I fail....I will dust myself ,learn ....since I'm kuku a professional learner [5/13, 21:59] @doctormichaels: I'm done [5/13, 22:00] Participant: 🙏🙏🙏 [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Thank you everyone [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Yes sie [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Sir* [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Amsn [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Amen [5/13, 22:00] Participant: No ,thank u Doctor. We wish u all the best. [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Yes sir [5/13, 22:00] Participant: Thank you very much for your time [5/13, 22:00] @doctormichaels: Yes [5/13, 22:01] Participant: Thank you very much sir for your time and effort. May God continue to enlighten you👏 [5/13, 22:02] Participant: Good insight👌👍🏻👍🏻 [5/13, 22:02] Participant: 👏🙏🙏🙏🙏 [5/13, 22:02] @doctormichaels: Amen [5/13, 22:02] @doctormichaels: Thankyou [5/13, 22:02] @doctormichaels: You too everyone [5/13, 22:03] Participant: Thank you so very much Dr Ayo Adewale, we deeply appreciate your time with us...